"Home" for the Holidays?
"Oh there's no place like home for the holiday's." I used to sing this as a child and think to myself, what a funny song, I am already home; Are there really people who need to go home for the holidays? When I departed from Wisconsin in July, I automatically found the words coming out of my mouth, "I'll be home for Christmas." How funny to think because I have decided to move half way across the country that that meant I need to spend the holidays traveling. Now I am faced with the questions, what do I consider home and how do I want to celebrate the holiday season?
Within the 96 hours that I headed home to Wisconsin, I took 4 separate flights totaling 16 hours (thank you delays). Moving out of the Midwest caused me to automatically think of how to accommodate others for the holiday season, but not once did I think that deciding to move out of the state would mean I could create a holiday season to fit my own happiness.
Going home for the holidays is less about traveling and stressing over flights or tickets and is more-so making sure those who you love most, know it. Make the time to send a handwritten card, make a special phone call, or connect over FaceTime. As a country and a population as a whole, so much importance is placed on seeing family and loved ones on one specific day rather than creating a special moment in time to share with each other.
I had not been home in 6 months until Christmas and while it was a Midwest traditions filled memory that I will treasure, (Old Fashioned's, Miller Lite, and card games), I took time to also recognize how my emotions were affected during this supposedly "joyous" time. I dreaded traveling, taking multiple flights, spending hundreds of dollars, and losing lots of sleep; none of which sounds joyous to me. Part of maturing and creating a life we crave also means deciding what is most important to us as individuals. Family is so very important, but in the very end, we are our own family. Creating those boundaries in your life makes you a strong individual and places the focus on your own health and happiness. If your family truly loves and supports you, they will understand that you would rather drink wine and watch Netflix with your dogs at home on Christmas (**raises hand**) than shuffle through airport securities. What makes you the most happy? Listen to and own your truth.
xoxo Miranda from the Midwest